In our modern world, we are taught that men are like frogs or toads and ladies are destined to kiss many frogs in order to find their prince. However, frogs and toads are not the only creatures with which we so often end up consorting. A potential partner can have the nature of any beast even if he or she appears to be the most beautiful or the most handsome girl or guy. It is inevitable that we are going to encounter many beasts before we arrive at our “at last!” moment. The question is, how do we distinguish the beasts from the best that God has for us? It really is not difficult if you exercise patience, intelligence, and discernment.
After God created Adam, for the first time, He found something evil about His creation. The man did not have a mate. God said that loneliness was not good. It was the evil that had popped up to create a sad dissonance which disrupted the tranquility of the garden. Immediately, God set about repairing the damage. He started off by bringing the other creatures He had made to the man to see if the man would choose a companion from among them. This was to be a test of the man’s intelligence, wisdom, and discernment.
One by one God brought the animals to Adam, and the parade to find a companion for the man turned into a naming party of those animals instead. So, God stood back and was entertained by the wisdom and intelligence displayed by the man.
After an exhaustive search for an equal for man among the existing creatures of creation, God set to work constructing a fitting companion for Adam. He put Adam in a deep sleep and took out a part of him which He used to construct the woman. Upon completion, he brought the female to Adam, and he immediately recognized her for who she was and launched into a prophetic declaration.
“This one at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. This one shall be called Woman for from man was she taken” (Genesis 2:23).
What did he mean by, “This one at last”? This was because the pageant of animals God brought to him had been part of the quest to find him a companion. So, the mare, the heifer, the donkey, the pig, the snake, and so on – none of them made the cut, but when He saw the companion that Hashem had custom built for him, he was moved to declarations of joy and prophecy.
He preached that day declaring the Good News. This was the Gospel according to Adam. He declared that this one is “bone of my bone” showing that she had strength, power, and authority that was similar to his. She was his equal and his counterpart. It wasn’t “I’m the big bone and she is the little bone.” She was the right fit that would restore him to wholeness.
He also called her “flesh of my flesh” which is the actual declaration of Good News. The word flesh in Hebrew is Basar. From it we get the word Besorah which means Gospel or Good News. Basar also is a euphemism for the male genitals which is the instrument of Good News in the marriage for it is the ‘hook’ that joins the man and woman together as “one flesh”
“Hence a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, so that they become one flesh.” Once again, they become one flesh through the “good news” action of the male organ.
So Adam didn’t choose the mare, the heifer, the sow, or the jenny. He didn’t choose the bitch or any other four-legged creature. He didn’t choose any of the two-legged ones or the ones with no legs, but the moment he saw the new creature God had made, he recognized her instantly.
What can we learn from this regarding the mate that God has for us? The first thing is that you will never find that person if you are out there kissing amphibians, being seduced by reptiles, and fraternizing with asses and so on.
If a woman is promiscuous, we call her an alley cat. If a man is a womanizer, we call him a dog. If a person is a two-faced deceiver, we call him or her a snake. Finally, if someone lacks charm and manners, we call them a frog or a toad. We fool ourselves into believing that underneath that slimy or uncouth exterior might just be a prince and a kiss from the “princess” will break the evil spell. That is just plain stupid.
Here is a story of an prince who was really an ass in disguise. His name was Shechem. His name literally meant that he was a beast of burden even though he had the appearance of a man. His father’s name was Hamor which literally meant jackass aka a male donkey. That should tell us something, shouldn’t it?
Now, these people lived in a city which they named after the donkey prince, so for fun, we will call it Donkey City. One day, a group of people called Hebrews came and camped close to the Donkey City. Among these new folks was a pretty adolescent girl named Dinah. She became very curious about the goings on in Donkey City and decided to sneak over there one day when all the animals in Donkey City were having one of their fertility donkey festivals.
Dinah wanted to meet other girls in Donkey City, but she ran into the donkey prince himself. He was immediately attracted to her, and that horny donkey dragged her to his house and raped the young girl. After he was finished having his way with her, he realized that she was not like all the donkey girls in his donkey town. She was unlike anyone he had ever known and he wanted to keep her. He would not let her leave his house, but he went to his man-jack father to ask for his help in securing Dinah as his wife.
Together, donkey prince and his daddy the donkey king went to visit Dinah’s family to ask for her hand. He wanted her so badly that he was willing to pay any bride price they asked of him. He did have a touch of nobility in him – he only wanted the girl; however, his father was busy mentally claiming Dinah’s people’s possessions for himself and his people.
Dinah’s brothers pretended to go along with the arrangements requiring that all the donkeys in Donkey City go through the very painful ritual of cropping off the foreskin of their donkey organs so that they would become like the Hebrews. The donkey prince and his father went on a campaign and convinced all the other jackasses how beneficial it would be for them to agree to undergo the ritual.
All the jacks finally went through the ritual in one day, and on the third day when they were incapacitated by the pain, two of Dinah’s brothers came and killed them all. They took Dinah from the donkey prince’s house. They took female captives, and they took livestock and other stuff and burned the city.
And so ends the tale of the donkey prince.
Why is this story important? It is important because it teaches us about the nature of man and what to avoid. You can recognize an ass easily enough. It is not his braying, his powerful shoulders, strong back, and strong hind legs which can kick the tar out of you that truly reveals his nature. The thing that reveals the ass more than anything else is his randy nature. He may not be a bad person in terms of how we define badness, but if he cannot control his drives he is an ass and therefore is not of the same kind as a female who is following God.
An ass will always try to get a God-fearing woman to break faith with her God and have sexual relations with him before marriage. Sometimes, the ass isn’t a man but a woman. She will act the seducer which is more in keeping with being a snake, but it doesn’t matter which base creature a person emulates. An animal and a human are not of the same kind.
So, are you hanging out with an ass? Are you getting ready to join your life with someone who is constantly trying to get you to break the commandments of God in order to satisfy his or her sexual desires? Have you already given in to having sex outside of marriage? Those, my friend, are ass-like behaviors, and trouble usually plagues the relationships that start out under donkey influence.
We all know the term “what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” But God will never join one of his daughters or one of his sons to a degenerate brute beast. He made someone just right for Adam. He has the right person for each of us, but we have to recognize if we are of the same kind as the one who is trying to mate with us.
There is a very easy way to discern if the person with whom we are becoming involved is really a beast in disguise rather than the “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.” If he or she is really a beast in disguise, you will always be put under pressure to sin. The couple might even be planning their wedding and choose to enter into a pre-marital sexual relationship not realizing that they have unleashed a beast.
On the other hand, a “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” mate is one who will inspire prophecy in us. We will recognize the essential parts of ourselves in that person. We will recognize that we are related in the spiritual realm through the same Holy Spirit at work in both of us. If we do not recognize Jesus in our prospective mates, if we do not detect the presence of the Holy Spirit in that life, how then can we even believe that God is responsible for joining two such disparate flesh together as one? Is God in the business of joining the living and the dead together? Does He condone any fellowship between light and darkness?
God allows our life experiences to form areas of need in our lives that only the right partner can fill.
Three years after his mother’s death, Isaac was still mourning her deeply. His father’s chief steward brought Rebecca to him and the moment he accepted her and made her his wife, his wounded heart healed. Not just any woman could have done that. It took a very special woman made just for him. She was to him all the woman he ever needed, and he was the only one of the three patriarchs who never got involved with another woman. Even when it took twenty years for his wife to conceive, he never looked at another woman. Instead, he interceded on his wife’s behalf for God to give them a child. God gave them twins, and after that very rough pregnancy, I am sure she was happy with just the two boys.
In this world, we have the freedom to choose whoever we desire as mates but God does not nor can He sanction, endorse, or bless every union. I submit that we must look more closely at the term “what God has joined together” in order to come into a fuller understanding so as not to place cruel and unnecessary bonds on one another. I am drawing from the fact that when God created man, he made them male and female, yet Adam was alone meaning that he was a single being. Therefore, God took from him that which was needed to bring about the female as a separate being. Originally, however, they were both clothed in one body as one unit. After they became two, the only way they could return to that state of oneness was through sexual intercourse where they became one flesh.
I think when each individual realizes the great implications involved in choosing a mate he or she will be a great deal more careful. Bear in mind how careful Abraham was in seeking a wife for his son. That son was just as careful in directing his son as to where to go to find a fitting wife. God did not let them down but directed their steps all the way to the covenant brides He had set aside for them. That same God will also direct your steps to the one who is truly right for you. Be done with the barnyard and the zoo animals. Wait on the Lord, and He will not disappoint you.
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